I recently read a blog post from Seth Godin called. Tribal organizing (right and wrong, slow and fast) He talked about the decisions we make and what motivates us. Are we living in the world of instant gratification and basing our decisions from that point of view? He suggest that maybe we slow down and look more long term. If we did that how would that impact or decision process? He pulls in the idea of building relationships and how that approach has s much more stable outcome. "Connection—We are here for the members of the tribe and the change they seek to make. Are people in this for the long haul, the destination as well as the journey? What do we stand for? Are relationships being built, or is this merely an ATM?"
IF you are not thinking long term and understanding that you need to be in it for the long haul then don't be surprised when your short term decisions only give you short term results. Just a thought!
As an instructor for our Windermere Ninja Installation I’ve come to learn that everyone can have success. It does not matter your upbringing, your education, your income or lack thereof. I have heard amazing stories from all walks of life. Hardships, life struggles, yet these individuals find a way to dig deep and become what they always knew they could be.
There are 3 main ingredients that I see in these types of individuals.
1. Self Esteem. They have an internal voice that says ‘I am” it says ” I can” and ‘I will” That voice inside does not doubt itself. That voice is loud with positive reinforcement and does not let negativity disrupt it’s forward momentum. This doesn’t mean there isn’t negativity, all of us have bad days and bad months and sometimes bad years, but they have learned to deal with negativity with positive self-talk and continue moving forward and spiraling up and not down.
2. They lack blame and are humble. They don’t point fingers. If they have a problem they first look inside to see what they have done to create this problem. In life it is easier to blame others for our misfortunes and much harder to point a finger back at ourselves. They seek to do more for others then they do for themselves. They have fully embraced the law of value. “You can’t get what you want until you have given others what they want” They always try to see the good in people. In the world we live in today it is so easy to seek out the bad and mistrust in people. When you lack blame you tend to see more good and less bad. Yet today we are surrounded with negativity. The News sources, TV, and Politics, all seem to want to uncover the bad in individuals when in reality on any given day there is so much more good happening in our world, yet the positive news doesn’t get us eyeballs or ratings so let’s ignore it. They have a great filter to take in good and filter out bad.
3.They create attraction. We are attracted to these individuals because of the positive energy they have. They are not self-serving and always look to prop up others. They have success yet rarely take the credit for it. They do not objectify other individuals. They see themselves on the same level. They teach and share their knowledge and are not protective of it. They spend more time listening and less time talking. When they do talk you very rarely hear the word “I”. They understand that getting things accomplished happens more often when we understand compromise and how to work together. They know that working in a vacuum will get them nowhere. They are great at solving your problems, because they care. They know how to be a player and avoid the victim mind set.
Every day we all have the ability to make a choice. Do I go out today and seek out someone I can help, or do I help myself? Do I walk knowing that I have all the answers and I’m not willing to share, or do I look to others for help and knowledge, and when I find it I want to pass it on? Do I tell myself I can or I can’t? In my mind’s eye am I better than everyone else or are we the same?
Everyone can be what they want to be, but in order for this to happen you have to look inside first and see how you are showing up every day. It has a profound effect on others, negative or positive.
As I teach classes on using Iphones and Ipads I’m always get some pushback when I suggest that everyone set a password on their device. They say it is a hassle and inconvenient. You know what is more inconvenient? Having a thief get access to all your personal information, not to mention your clanedar, financial, and contact informatin. Here is a recent article from Citeworld on theft of cell phones. How protected is all your information if someone was to steal your devices? Read Article
Below are some easy things you can do to be safe.
1. make sure you have a passcode on your phone
2. Make sure you have I cloud set up
3. Make sure you have an account with find my Iphone/Ipad
4. Don’t leave your device in the passenger seat of your car or out some place where someone may be tempted to steal it.
You can also set your phone up so Thieves can’t disable find my iphone by following the steps on this blog article. Read Article.
If you have any good phone recovery stories I would love to hear them.
In our world of business and life we have a big decision to make. Are we in our box or out of it? This is the premise to the book I just finished called. Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box
As we engage with other individuals we can be perceived in two different ways. “In the box” meaning we objectify those we interact with. We feel that we are smarter, more deserving and on a higher plane then other individuals. “Out of the box” meaning we see others as humans with needs just like ours. We are on the same level and want to better understand how we can help others achieve what they want in life. We do this by caring, listening and understanding that we have a desire to help.
A good leader has humility. A good leader listens far more then they speak, and allows the student to realize their true potential.
This book uses an entertaining story about an executive facing challenges at work and at home to expose the precise psychological processes that conceal his true motivations and intentions from himself and trap him in a “box” of endless self-justification.
You get back exactly what you place out in the world. As humans we tend to rationalize everything. When we rationalize over time it creates true self-deception. After a while we completely believe our self-deception as the norm. We then tend to wonder why individuals don’t work as hard as we do, or don’t seem to understand us? CEO’s that can’t get their team to work with them. If they would step out of their box and really see what they are putting out to the world they would then have true perception of what others really see in them.
No matter your profession, your personal relationships, or relationship with kids. This is a great book that will open your eyes to learning how to get out of your own box!
So if you’re a college football fan then you most likely have heard of Nick Saban. He is the head coach for the Alabama Crimson Tide. He has been said to be one of the most powerful head coaches in college football today, and his record stands for itself.
My reason for talking about him is based on his 5 leadership lessons. Much of his philosophy applies directly to business owners today.
1. Surround yourself with talent. When you are building a business you want to have strong successful individuals that are good at what they do. It happens all the time when there is an owner who fully believes he knows it all. Remember you don’t have to know everything you just have to hire smart people that know and understand the concept of team.
2. Create a process. When you have a system that creates consistency then positive outcome is the end result. My son plays baseball. He is 9 and during the game all they want to know is what is the score. My response is focus on hitting, fielding, and throwing and the score will take care of itself. Too many times we just want to focus on the outcome but don’t put the process in place to learn and master the fundamentals.
3. Manage your message! Do you have a message that can be spoken in one voice by all? This starts with your vision. Your team players share in the vision which will produce a consistent message to your customers. Have you created this vision? If not, then you may be a ship with out a rudder.
4.Keep it simple. Don’t over think stuff. Many times if you listen to your gut it is the right decision. I have often seen business owners always getting ready to get ready. I sometimes believe in fire read aim method. If your a bit off the mark then re aim.
5. Make wise investments in the future. Many times if you’re thinking about what is happening now and you’re basing investment decisions on now time then you are way behind the 8 ball. In order to be in front of momentum you need to take off your now blinders and look up ahead of you. What is coming? Often the signs of where we are going is just in front of us be we are so focused on the now that we don’t look up.
Here is the link to the Forbes article about Nick Saban. Football coaches are much like the CEO of any company. They have a job to unite, and direct talent to work together to share a common goal and vision. The outcome will vary based on your success of the 5 lessons above.
From the book the Slight Edge.
"Are there things that are incomplete in your life? any unpaid bills? Have you done your taxes? Did you borrow a book or tool you have yet to return? Is there someone who needs to hear you say, "I love you," or, "I'm sorry," or, "Thank you- I appreciate you"? Do you have any unfinished projects? Any unkept promises- taking a weekend away with your spouse, or taking your kids somewhere special? Are there any agreements or commitments you left hanging?
Each and every incomplete thing in your life or work exerts a draining force on you, sucking the energy of accomplishment and success out of you and leaving you in less then a positive mental state.
Here is the unfortunate and powerfully destructive truth of being incomplete: it keeps the past alive. Remember, people who live on the success curve are pulled by the future, while those who dwell on the failure curve are pulled by the past. And a surefire way to be forced to live as a prisoner of your past is to not complete things."
The book the slight edge is a powerful and thought provoking book that I guarantee will help you to look at your life differently. It has helped me to better understand how every decision I make in life has a negative or positive impact on my future.
I'd like you to meet Joie Gowan. Joie as been in the real estate business for over 25 years. I walk past her office daily on the way to my office. Today I walked by and noticed over 100 of these on her floor.
I asked Joie what they were? She told me they are shopping bags wrapped up nicely with a hand written note and a small gift. She explained that they are hand delivered.
You might be saying, "really a shopping bag.?" It's not any old shopping bag, it is a very well maid great designed shopping bag.
I happen to know some of Joie's customers and they tell me that every time they grab this bag out of their car they think about Joie. BINGO!
She does this every year for her customers. I want you to know that Joie understands value and relevance. She also knows that faceless relationships don't last. Maybe this year some of you might take a page out of Joie's book and ask how you are doing something special to be face to face with your customers?